4 ways to mend a broken heart

4 ways to mend a broken heart


The worst has happened. The one with whom we planned to grow old has decided not to love us anymore. For whatever reasons. It doesn't even matter right now. We just don't feel good about ourselves. We don't know what to do. It feels impossible to think about dating again — get back into the water after the sharks have picked us clean. I've been there. And I've found some useful things that helped me date again — to get past the emotional baggage of being dumped and down. Perhaps some of these will be useful to you.

1. Seek out old friends.


All those friends you didn't have time for when you were dating your boyfriend are still there. Give them a call. Make plans for movies, dancing, dinner — anything. Just make plans you can look forward to. Something that will stop you from feeling lonely on those nights you and your ex used to do things together. Give yourself a reason to anticipate the weekend — not dread it. If you're friends are all in couples, you might want to join for free to meet friendly single people in the same boat as you.

2. Find something you really like to do and do it.


Remember all those things you liked to do before you were dating —going to ball games, writing short stories, reading fiction novels?

Well, they never left you. They just got put to the side — either because your ex didn't like doing them — or you were just too busy to partake. Now is the time to treat yourself — go to a movie by yourself if you can't find a friend, or try matchfinder and secure a movie-partner who is in the same position as you. I'd advise against going to watch a weepie though, or you could both spend the night weeping into each others shoulders!

3. Find a physical activity you might enjoy and explore it.


When I broke up, I wanted to meet eligible singles, so I started playing football in a local team. After playing for almost two years, I'm getting pretty good. I may never be great, but it's great physical exercise, and it gave me a social outlet to meet new people as well as something to look forward to during the week.

4. Get ready for next time.


One thing you learn from a break-up are the things you did wrong.But there were things you did right, too! Self-help books can help. After a bad break-up, reading self help books made me realize that being too down didn't help; it hindered me like a self-fulfilling prophecy.


Learning how to be more optimistic has made my life much happier over the years.


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and Smile.. there is a lot ahead..

Wizard